It's the classic one rule for people you like and another for people you don't like or don't know. I think people honestly convince themselves that if their "friend" did something it can't be as bad as all that. Delusional.

I'm not surprised the victim doesn't want to press charges. I feel so very sorry for her. She's my age now and she's got to live through this horror yet again! Not only did he rape her as a child, but he's tormenting her to this day.